Are you are a professional compliment defector?
This episode might just be for you.
I really want to talk about this today because this has been in my space so much. I have been giving so many compliments to so many amazing, incredible, curvaceous, fit, and beautiful women in my life.
I’ve seriously been fascinated by the topic of compliments in the last couple weeks. You know what I found, sister?
It is absolutely ASTONISHING how many of us simply cannot accept a damn compliment.
Here’s What I Talked About:
- Why compliments make us uncomfortable and how our brain is programmed to not take compliments graciously.
- Understanding why compliments aren’t just about us and why others compliment us.
- How learning to give and accept compliments creates a beautiful flow of energy and breaks negative brain patterns
Being me, I did a little research as to why we have such a hard time accepting compliments, and of course, it has everything to do with those pesky brain patterns.
Sister, a lot of the times we receive a compliment, and we are so conditioned to deflect the compliment it means that we truly do not believe that about ourselves.
It triggers that sense of self-esteem and feelings of self-worth. Specifically, compliments can really make us feel uncomfortable because they contradict our own self-views and self-beliefs.
As a society, we are naturally inclined not to like lies. Lies don’t land really well with us. If it feels like a lie, looks like a lie, and it lands like a lie, it must be a lie. Right?
A lot of the times when we receive compliments we cannot accept the compliments because we think it’s a lie.
As a result, we laugh the compliment with an uncomfortable thanks or change the subject nervously.
Why are these reactions not ideal? They completely disregard the feelings of the compliment giver.
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Compliments Aren’t Only About Us:
Sister, I know that sometimes compliments can seem to only create feelings in the person receiving them. Truth be told, this isn’t the case at all.
Please know that the person on the other side sees something about us that they love and wants to bring more attention to because we are worthy of that love and worthy of that compliment.
Giving us that compliment makes them feel good as well. They feel good knowing that they made us feel good.
Have you ever smiled when you saw a baby smiling at you at the grocery store or the coffee shop? Yes, that’s the fuzzy feeling I am talking about.
When we simply accept and receive that compliment, it lands on us. Even if doesn’t feel right at first, simply saying “thank you, I appreciate you noticing” or “thank you so much; I feel so beautiful”, makes the person on the other end feel good.
The Giving and Receiving Game:
The more and more we accept compliments and genuinely thank our compliment givers, we begin to create new brain patterns.
Brand new patterns of receiving, brand new patterns of feeling more confident, and brand new patterns of creating more of that in the future.
When you make somebody feel good about giving you a compliment, they will most likely do it again.
This is the giving and receiving game (similar to the masculine and feminine), and it is a beautiful exchange of energy.
Now, I am not saying to throw compliments around like it’s nothing. We have to actually mean them. When we create this exchange, we make others feel warm and fuzzy, and they are going to want to spread it around.
(Want to learn how to surround yourself with good vibes and positive energies? Check out Ep #107 The One Thing Missing to Skyrocket Your Happiness)
It sounds cheesy but learning to accept compliments and give meaningful compliments creates so much love and creates a positive flow of energy. And who doesn’t want to feel appreciated and loved?
I wanted to share this beautiful process with you and get you into a state of giving and receiving and get you to a state of truly appreciating love when it comes your way.
Let’s end this pattern of cringing at every compliment and let’s create a pattern of love and positivity. Sister, we’re worth it!
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